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Well, I am not the right person to write on this topic. Because I do not believe in the pre-marriage romance the much celebrated love of the youth and all that non-sense. But then the topic asks us to support or oppose the stand that love is a one time affair. I will try and write something meaningful. But be warned. I am very pathetic with this stuff. If you get bored some where, then I suggest you stop reading.
Mr. Jayanth, the author of the kick off post writes:
"To love someone means to hold your partner at a special place and according the highest concern and regards. The passion for the partner never reduces and the feeling is eternal. The special one is placed above self and their position is irreplaceable"
Very true. But then it is a circumstantial statement, not true in all cases. Love and its depth have been time and again redefined depending upon the people and age. For example in the current period, we have the college kids in the age group of 15-22, the young employees 22-28, the married youth 28-34, the middle age 34-45 and the old 46 and above.
In the current day scenario every age group has its own definition of love. In the first two age groups, especially love is more about physical relationship, short term flirtations, break-up and move on to a new crush. Please underline the point that they are in majority. For such a group, do you think the point highlighted in blue stands true.
No I don't think. For some, in the age groups of married youth, middle age and the old, I firmly believe that the highlighted point stands true for some. There are still people who are true lovers and for them the first love would mean everything in heart and mind that cannot be dethroned. The nurture their feeling for the first love through out the life. But the Gen-X, cunning mean and with their shoe lace morality wouldnt stand the tests of time, give in to the stress, turn to wrong means and then end up getting a new person to replace the X. Next some Y will replace the X so on and so forth.
So My thoughts are that
"For a majority in the current day, Love is not a once in life time affair"
Comments
but i also think urs is a very very 'safe' kinda point of view....wud have liked sumthin bolder dat came across a tad forecefully i think.
gud luck all d same! :)
I am glad yours is the first comment.
But that is my point of view :)
Aren't you participating in the debate?
Thanks for dropping by.
Of course, I fall under the young college group, but then again, I don't believe in the solely physical attraction. Real love, which I experiences before, was much deeper and took a long time to develop.
I don't think, though, that there is only one love out there. Love is defined by feeling, whichever way they come to appear.
Thank you for following and commenting. Your blog really is interesting. I'm looking forward to have more discussions.
Nahno ∗ McLein ™
yeah i was talking about majority and not about everyone. and yes everyone has his/her own opinion about this.
Another point is- u said u don't believe in pre-marriage love', then how come r u backing up d fact that 'love for u is not an ever-lasting affair' ? sounds contradictory to me.
I hope u don't get me wrong..but being an audience i didnt feel convinced, inspite of having much similar thoughts like urs from the start till d end :(
the good thing was whatever u expressed was clear easy to grasp, as in the clarity of thoughts..which i liked!
hope i didnt offend u!
sarah
First, you didnt offend me even a bit.
Second, I was stating my thoughts, I dunno why I sound diplomatic in almost all debates I participate :(
:D Well I dont in love - tats right. But then I was talking of what is happening these days. Majority of population are youngsters and what I see in them (of course me not counted in) is that love is not an ever lasting affair and that is what I have tried to potray.
I will try to pick and impress both u and Sadiya, probably incoming debates /posts/
I will continue with my RTI series of posts.
Also, IMHO, the feeling of love transcends the scenarios of today, yesterday or even tomorrow.
“True love never dies for it is lust that fades away. Love bonds for a lifetime but lust just pushes away.”
Oh yeah, I should have written :(
I missed it in a hurry. Guess it should be fine if I edit my post now
Welcome back to my blog. It has been long time now.
Well, thanks for bringing up this point about true love.
All I am trying to say is there is no more true love (for majority of the people atleast) and thus no value for relationships :)
I agree feeling of love transcends across ages, but the number of people afflicted by True Love are fast decreasing , almost reaching extinction :)
Peace !
Happy Valentine's Day
Someone is Special
The meaning of love changes as we mature.
Lastly, would have apprecaited if u gave your view point on it.... u said for this generation love cannot be for one time only, so what do u think about it? as u said, no love before marriage thing...is that ur reply?
tc
RESTLESS
Lets agree to disagree.
@restless,
Thanks for dropping by. I realize now that I should written more and expressed more clearly
Thanks for dropping by .
Yes I know that. I am not underestimating, just stating my observations, For all we know it many not be the truth. But it is wat I have observed.
Very well said and very true :)
Someone is Special
Sorry was a bit occupied with work.
Thats it.
You didnt hurt me brother :)
Someone is Special
THnaks for dropping by.
I realize that I have not made my stand clear.
Probably next debate, I ll do better Inshaallah.
You have put up a wonderful post